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Post by susecita on Jul 10, 2006 14:56:21 GMT -5
An ex from 6 yrs. This was and will always be the love of my life. Funny isn't it? I feel such a strong connection and always felt he would be the man I would marry. But alas, Im a bit older and wiser and he chose to take a different path from mine. This is fine. I love and adore my boyfriend....After many tries I am ready to commit and settle down with this one...so why in the hell have I been having recurring dreams of this ex in which we are both very happy. It's always the present and we are always together and happy and excited about being together forever. The dreams are numerous so the specifics are blurry. They freaked me so (you know being so happy in a dream with a man that is not the same who is by your side is weird) that I ended up emailing him. Still restless about the dreams as they are recurring. Thoughts? Thanks!
-Sus
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Post by Amanda Rose on Jul 10, 2006 15:22:25 GMT -5
Oi.
I know this all too well.
At first I thought it was God's form of torturing me.
But now I look at it as somewhat of a blessing that I can be able to still dream & remember the memories & keep a peice of that. You know?
Maybe in a sense, you are releasing it?
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Post by susecita on Jul 11, 2006 16:11:01 GMT -5
That is a good way of looking at this. Any other options? Thanks Amanda!!!
--Sus
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Post by coachvelma on Jul 11, 2006 16:38:54 GMT -5
Dreams are generally all about you and nothing about the person you are dreaming about. It likely represents the FEELING you get from it. I have had dreams in the past where my present husband is represented by my X husband. Likely because I had fears about me allowing things to happen now that happened then. So perhaps there is more in your life that is feeling awesome right now.  |
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Post by susecita on Jul 12, 2006 17:22:10 GMT -5
Good one. Ill go with it. I have also been missing him lately...i dunno because of the dreams or if the dreams came because i was missing him. Thanks guys.
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Post by listen on Jul 15, 2006 7:04:17 GMT -5
Hi Susecita... To expand a little on what Coachvelma said... When I took classes on dream work with a jungian therapist I got some of the best info! The most important thing I took away with me was that everyone in our dreams is a variation of us and how we perceive the other might feel. From the child to the hag, to the ex boyfriend, to the current one, its all about our projecting our thoughts about the person onto his/her image. So when you dream about happy times with the ex, your remembering the hapy times YOU had, and reliving them to a degree- so the place to go looking is into yourself...only you know how much this person means to you and how much signifigance to place on this dream, how much it speaks to you about your current relationship. I subscribe to the idea put forth by the Association for the Study of Dreams: www.jeremytaylor.com/pages/ethics.htmlMy guess is that you might be feeling that you are not quite as willing to settle down as you might be thinking you are, that you feel still that there is a love out there that will equal the one that you had before... Whether or not this is true is whats really important. Just my 2 cents at the end there.  L |
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Post by scorpio75 on Jul 17, 2006 20:19:08 GMT -5
I have these dreams often too. And I tell him to stay the hell out of my dreams. No need going back to a place that broke my heart and soul to pieces.
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